We all know those people, though sometimes we may wish we didn’t. The ones that no matter what you do with them there is always “a break out of drama” that stirs up strife and causes division within the group you are with no matter how big or how small.
These experiences can be emotionally frustrating and though you have tried to understand and fix the situations that come up – you still wind up – scratching your head – wondering “how in the world did this happen. This is CRAZY.”
Some people just want you to bow down to them and they use drama to get you to do it.
For some of us its some people we go to church with who are constantly stirring up some issue about the church or the people in it. For others of us it comes from a set of relatives and regardless of what you do with them something winds up going wrong. Others hope that we do not have to endure our child being in a class with the kids of those parents who never seem to be happy with the school or the teacher… again this year.
So what is the answer to “how should we as believers handle these people?” Do we walk on eggshells and endure till the end?
No – Walking on egg shells is exhausting, and doesn’t work because they are not happy unless they are upset at something. Unless they are stirring something up.
Do we smack them? I wish I could say yes… but the answer is no unfortunately.
Does God’s word say anything about this? – Yes it does.
Not too long ago I ran across a few verses in the Bible that gave me some much needed direction when it came to people who stir things up with their drama.
“But avoid foolish controversies, genealogies, dissensions, and quarrels about the law, for they are unprofitable and worthless. As for a person who stirs up division, after warning him once and then twice, have nothing more to do with him, knowing that such a person is warped and sinful; he is self-condemned.” Titus 3:9-11
In short you do not have to be around them anymore. Have nothing more to do with them. Yes, you can forgive them without having to show that forgiveness by being around them. You warn them and then if they do not stop you have nothing more to do with them.
You are free to avoid these types of toxic people.
So quit feeling guilty because you don’t want to be around them anymore… It’s Ok and God wants you to stay away from them.